How to win friends & influence people
There’s an old proverb that goes: A wise old owl sat in an oak; the more he saw, the less he spoke. The less he spoke, the more he heard. Lord, make me like that wise old bird!”
Dale Carnegie knew that he could walk into any room and convince anyone that he was a good friend just by listening. And isn’t that one of the qualities you look for in a good friend?
Some Christians think that the goal of evangelism is to “convince and convert.” What they’re missing, though, is that the actual goal is to share God’s love. Since God loves to listen to us, shouldn’t we exemplify His character by listening to others?
God’s love is transforming. He doesn’t depend on your words.
James 1:19 reads: “Understand this, my beloved brothers and sisters. Let everyone be quick to hear [be a careful, thoughtful listener], slow to speak [a speaker of carefully chosen words and], slow to anger [patient, reflective, forgiving]; (AMP).”
Romans 2:4 asks, “Do you not know that it is His lovingkindness that brings us to repentance?”
God is less interested in your words than He is your heart. If you listen with your heart, you’ll demonstrate His love. Listening to people even if they’re not ready to embrace Christ shows genuine interest in them. When they feel loved, they naturally want to know that love deeper. This approach requires time, effort and emotional energy.
When you set your own agenda aside, no matter how noble you see it, and simply listen to the hurts, questions, and arguments of the unbeliever, you earn the right to share the content of the Gospel..